I can remember when now 24 year old Jasmine was a pre-teen, she would get so aggravated when she heard someone talking bad about another someone. Her basis was basically this: “What he or she chooses to do, say, wear…doesn’t affect your life, so why do you care?” Another Jasmine goodie to the ever constant criticism of professional athletes. “If you can do it better, let’s see it.”
So, I TRY to let people do what they want. Wear what they want. Say what they want. It is, indeed, their life and they (whoever they are) have made it this far without my never-so humble opinion(s) shaping their existence. Who am I to judge? I can almost hear Jasmine reminding me that I have done, wore and said things that horrify me to this day. And I thank you for not reminding me of them, or holding them against me. (I do a pretty good job of that, myself.)
And speaking of passing judgement. Ugh. That’s just plain DUMB. Because as near as I can tell, everything I’ve ever passed judgement on has shown right up at my front door. And that’s awesome. (or not.)
Now, that’s not to say I don’t get mad. React when I get stung. Swear (but you already know that about me) like a sailor – even directed at others – when appropriate. What I try not to do is make it personal. And if I do ever fall in that gutter, I have a good man who reminds me that’s not where I live, and pulls me out, and dusts me off.
Again, I’m not playing high & mighty – I wish I could say I never did it, or never do it. I’m just saying I feel GROSS when I do, and wish I didn’t. So it’s a process, and one I intend to keep working on.
I once heard the mantra:
“I spend so much time on the improvement of myself that I have no time to criticize others.”
That’s really where I want to live. So, in the moments when I’m tempted to jump on the bandwagon and just rip someone apart, I usually get quiet (yes, it can happen!). And in that quiet I am working hard on showing restraint, and probably digging deep for some inspiration like:
“When they go low, we go HIGH.”
Or get high, but that’s another blog, altogether…
In the end, it’s hard work being a decent, kind, non-judgemental, gossip-free Princess. Especially when I’m out and I see someone in shoes that just DO NOT work with that outfit … Wait!? Did she just go there??
You Heard the Lady,